by Dani DiPirro
Staying true to yourself is one of the best ways to make the most of every moment and to feel as if you’re living a fulfilling, honest life — but what does it really mean to ‘stay true to yourself’?
Your personal truth presents itself in little ways every day — in what you say, how you act, what items you purchase, who you choose to spend your time with, what environments you tolerate — and in order to stay true to yourself, you must first know what’s true for you.
Your truth — the essence of who you are and what you value — will reveal itself over time, but you’ll only notice it if you’re paying attention. It will also change over time, which is something you should be on the lookout for as well.
Ask yourself why you do what you do
One of the easiest — and most effective — ways to uncover your truth is to ask yourself why. Ask yourself why you have the job you do, why you spend time with the people you’ve befriended, why you choose to enjoy your free time doing certain activities.
The more you inquire about your actions, the more you’ll begin to see what matters most to you. And what matters most is often where the truth shines through. The act of asking why allows you to see what you do — and don’t — value in your life.
Asking why is also a great eye-opener for getting rid of things that don’t speak to your truth. For example, if you ask yourself why you spend time with a certain friend and can’t come up with a good answer, perhaps this person isn’t adding value to your life. Keep asking why and you’ll gain more insights about your personal truth.
Speak only words of truth
Sometimes the truth can be difficult to say. In an effort not to hurt others or to avoid conflict, we sometimes avoid speaking true words. But speaking the truth — to others and to yourself — is essential to knowing what your truth is and remaining honest with who you are and what you believe in.
Speaking honestly to others will be challenging at times, but, as American author Mark Twain said, ‘If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything’. The truth is always there, and it’s much easier when you accept it. Speaking truthfully is one of the best ways to connect deep, meaningful connections with others — and avoid future conflicts.
Being honest with yourself is equally as important as being honest with others. Are the words you say to (and about) yourself absolutely true? Sometimes we default to what we think should be true rather than actually looking at the facts. For example, you might think, ‘I’m a terrible speller’ because you didn’t do well in spelling as a child, but are you still a terrible speller? You might have upped your spelling game a lot since your school days!
If you struggle to be honest with yourself, go back to asking yourself ‘why?’ Ask why you feel the need to be dishonest and keep asking until you uncover the truth of what really matters to you.
There are many ways to stay true to yourself — doing what you love as a career, spending time with people who appreciate you, and treating yourself to a lot of self-love — but before you can stay true to yourself, you must fully understand that truth. Keep asking why and speaking honestly to yourself and others and the truth of who you are will be continuously revealed.
About the Author: Dani DiPirro is founder of PositivelyPresent.com, designed to help others live positively – it now attracts more than 90,000 pageviews per month. Her work has been featured on sites such as The Happiness Project, Psychology Today and Forbes.
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