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Being Hardy: Battling Demons and Building Resilience

There’s an old saying, ‘Sticks and stones will break my bones but names can never hurt me.’ Anyone who has been on the receiving end of a verbal assault will know that this is not true. They may not break bones but words exert a powerful force on our health and well-being. Words and thoughts can inspire us, leave us feeling elated, or leave us defeated and deflated. They shape our view of the world and impact on how we feel about the world, how we view the world and what we do in the world.

To learn more, see Dr Gary Wood’s book Unlock Your Confidence

Rating Hardiness Attitudes

Let’s consider how you rate yourself for these three attitudes, using the 0–10 scale, where 0 equals ‘lowest’ and 10 equals ‘highest’. Use any point on the scale that most accurately reflects your attitude. Review the three definitions above.

1. How would you rate yourself on commitment?

     0         1         2         3         4         5         6         7         8         9        10

   Low                                              Moderate                                        High

Now consider these questions:

• How have you got this far along the scale?

• What is it that has helped you to get from 0 to where you are now?

• If you are at 0, what would you imagine doing when the score is 1 or 2?

• What do you imagine doing if you move one point up the scale?

• What small, significant action will you commit to this week?

• What might you do right now?

2. How would you rate yourself on control?

     0         1         2         3         4         5         6         7         8         9        10

   Low                                              Moderate                                        High

Now consider these questions:

• How have you got this far along the scale?

• What is it that has helped you to get from 0 to where you are now?

• If you are at 0, what would you imagine doing when the score is 1 or 2?

• What do you imagine doing if you move one point up the scale?

• What small, significant action will you take control of this week to see how it moves your score on?

• What might you do right now?

3. How would you rate yourself on challenge?

     0         1         2         3         4         5         6         7         8         9        10

   Low                                              Moderate                                        High

Now consider these questions:

• How have you got this far along the scale?

• What is it that has helped you to get from 0 to where you are now?

• If you are at 0, what would you imagine doing when the score is 1 or 2?

• What can you imagine doing if you move one point up the scale?

• What small, significant challenge will you take action on this week?

• What might you do right now?

Continue to look for opportunities to take small actions to demonstrate the attitudes of commitment, control and challenge in your life. Also consider what score would be ‘good enough’ for you to feel that the attitude changes are having a significant impact on your confidence building.

Unlock Your Confidence

 

Dr Gary Wood
Unlock Your Confidence
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